Ah, romance

Ive never defined romance before today, nor have i needed to. when i think something is romantic it is just that. When i read Elizabeth Browing's "How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. . ." I had to really think about what traditional expressions of romance really is. Saying "i love you" everyday, or often, becomes casual, and even so I could say "Aw he is just romantic like that." But its really not...there is no fire when he would say that daily, and there is no fire when i would think he's being romantic...casual phrase...casual response...a smile is wonderful to have everyday, and love is even more wonderful to feel everyday...but anything "every day" lacks a fiery passion, and thats why romance isnt thought of as an "every day" item. its special and it shouldnt be thought of as a everyday thing...and if it happend every day...it wouldnt be romantic after a while would it? So i have defined the expression of romantic love to contain sexual love, exitement, glamour, and expectations...

That poem above was endearing but didnt in anyway satisfy that romantic need. Its lovely, its desired, and even if it is passionate and desired it doesnt have to be expressed with exitement, expectations...sexual love. It can be written by a romantic, but there is a clear difference between the endearing side of love and a romantic side. If you want to call something romantic, hopefully it had made ur blood pressure level rise. I think that poem was more soothing than anything...if your spouse tells you anything like that, i could imagine your two hearts should beat as one, and not as if you just ran a marathon.

I think the most ideal love is endearing love, because its more likely to exist every day of your life.